I know, I know, this is so un-Progressive Pioneerish of me, but I got this email about interviewing Katherine Heigl to help promote the DVD release of her new movie and, after initially erasing the email, went and dug it back out of the cyber-trash because, well, I've always been kind of interested in her. And here's why: #1 She was raised Mormon, isn't active now, but seems to be pretty positive about the church. And #2 She has a house here in Utah and Clay designed and built some cabinets for her! Random, right?!
So, anyway, I got to ask a few questions and hear her responses as well as a bunch of questions and answers from other bloggers. Truthfully, I really wanted to ask her about being raised in the church, but not practicing anymore, that's what I was most curious about (or maybe, "hey, how are those cabinets holding up?"), but I wouldn't want someone asking me about that in a public interview, so I asked her easier questions about maintaining a private self while being in the public eye, and about whether or not she'd want her daughter to get into modeling and acting.
And you know, it was kind of interesting to be on the phone with someone famous, but not really as exciting as you might think. She seemed quite nice and pretty real. In fact, in answer to that first question she said, "I tend to be a little too forthright or honest, I don't censor myself very well. Who I am is pretty much what you get. The problem with that is that I tend to work things out verbally, like in interviews; I almost need to learn how to be more private, to keep more of myself under wraps." And, I didn't really feel like she was putting on a particular persona when she talked to us, but rather that she seemed pretty genuine.
A lot of the interview was about parenting (she adopted a little girl from Korea) and our parenting styles are pretty different, but one thing she said that I really appreciated was basically that there's this idea that women can have it all and be it all, but that's a fallacy. There are only so many hours in the day and you only have so much energy to devote to all the various options on your plate. So, even though we can be and do anything we want, we can't do it all at once; there are hard choices to be made. What she said was, "I have this fantasty that I can juggle it all, the problem is when I'm working and I'm trying so hard to be invovled in every detail of Naleigh's day, I don't do either well, I have an excellent nanny who I love and can trust, and my husband is an excellent partner and my mom is my business partner. I have this group of people I can lean on heavily, but it's the worst to leave a sick child who's crying for you. I want to call in sick so I can take care of her. No sick days for actors; it's a pretty sweet gig so I can't complain. But there are times I've had to compromise my professoinalism and be late so I can be a mother, hold her for ten more minutes..."
I appreicated that because I often have so many things I want to do in addition to mothering and it's hard for me to figure out how to do them all while still putting the kids first, keeping everyone fed, maintaining a clean house, and, of course, my sanity. I sometimes feel like I should be able to do it and then feel like I'm doing something wrong when I can't. But the truth is, being a mom is a fulltime job and while we have the option of doing other things; writing a book, having an etsy shop, being a lawyer, running a CSA, volunteering at the library, working out at the gym, etc. etc., that doing any of those things means doing a little less mothering. And this is okay; well-rounded, happy mothers make good mothers. And I think it's good for kids to see that their moms have lives that don't just revolve around them. But I think the important thing is to acknowledge to ourselves that we're not failing when the house is a mess because we spent nap time writing poetry, or that we're bad moms for leaving the kids with dad while we go to a class. The important thing is to acknowledge our limitations and then work out our priorities within those bounds. Hmm... didn't really see all that deep thinking coming from an interview with a celebrity, but there you have it.
Oh, and part of the deal was that I have to post this widget-y thing (it's so large!). So, go see her movie; it looks cute. I actually haven't seen it yet, but it's playing at the cheap here in SLC, so I probably will, or maybe Clay and I will rent the DVD (he's very accomodating about watching chick flicks- have I ever mentioned my inability to watch dramas or anything deep or serious (mostly) since we've had kids? I just need the world to be a happily-ever-after sort of place and can't handle movies that are sad or too close to real life anymore).
Oh, and I almost forgot! There's a giveaway too! Three readers can win a copy of the DVD and the soundtrack. Just leave your comments in the regular fashion and we'll pick three winners this weekend(ish).
To be entered to win the movie and soundtrack please leave a comment below. You can gain SIX additional entries in the following ways, but remember to leave an ADDITIONAL COMMENT FOR EACH ENTRY. 1) add PP to your blog roll (1st timers only) 2) become a fan on facebook (1st timers only) 3) become a friend (1st timers) 4) add a button (1st timers) 5) mention the giveaway on your blog, or 6) on facebook.
Congratulations to Sara, who said, "I just recently started reading your blog and I just LOVE your style! I have to admit, the "make and do" Fridays are my absolute favorite, even though I usually see lots of things I want to make but will likely never take the time to! But I did make some of the Valentine bubble gum necklaces you linked to and they are soooo cute! Thanks for posting this interview of sorts as well. It is good to hear of someone in Hollywood who is trying to keep it real. I have not seen this movie yet but it looks like a cute one . . . I'd love to be able to watch the DVD at home! Hope the flu is over at your house real soon! Sarah"
And Misti, who said, "I just added you to my blogroll thanks."
And Bjahlstrom, who said, "I've wanted to see that movie since it came out. It would be amazing to own the DVD. I love all the feedback you offered from that interview; it was so interesting."